Mya

For top speeds, that's easy. Hull speed is a practical limitation of how fast a given displacement hull can move through flat water, and depends solely on waterline length (note that this is the sailing waterline, which may be greater than the displacement waterline as heeling places more of the hull in the water).

In particular, the hull speed in knots is approximately 1.34 times the square root of the waterline length in feet.

For a generic tall ship of, say, 150 feet, this formula gives a practical speed limit of 16.4 knots. 18,000 miles is about 15,600 nm, which corresponds to about 40 days of travel if maintaining top speed continuously. This is our lower bound - in reality, varying conditions, storms, high pressure systems with no wind (doldrums), and inefficiencies in the necessary route will cause the actual velocity made good (closing speed to the destination) to be lower.

Here's a good record for you.

In 1851, the 225 foot long clipper ship Flying Cloud set the record for the fastest journey from New York to San Francisco, 16,000 nautical miles in 89 days. As Wikipedia mentions, the average ship during that era took on average around 200 days.

Hull speed has nothing to do with wind direction.

It just gives the maximum speed for displacement hulls independent of what drives them.

Of course there are ways to go faster, like planing and "cutting through" the bow wave (like most catamaran designs and other semi-displacement hulls do), but both of those are out of the question for tall ships.

And even for smaller hulls, those rules are interdependent of wind direction.

Small cats will enter the semi-displacement regime going upwind, and performance skiffs will easily plane upwind.

Mya

I've seen some really pretty gender neutral nurseries in a wide variety of colors.

After searching on Pinterest for gender neutral nursery ideas I concluded that pretty much any color can be if you use the right accent colors and/or other decor items. Like blue could totally be a boy nursery color but if you pair it with some white lacy things and maybe some flowers and such it starts to look pretty girly.

Here is a pretty green nursery that I personally think is pretty gender neutral. Still I would go grey, or a pastel-ish mint color.

Or, if you go with beige, get a bunch of cool wall stickers, you can get some that go all the way around the room to add color without breaking the gender neutral colouring. I had a friend do a jungle theme, she knew she was having a boy but wanted the nursery to be reusable.

Another friend did a rainbow theme with pastel colors which worked out great as well, and her walls were just beige.

Someone else mentioned turquoise and that's always a good choice because it's a pretty, non-boring color that can go either way.

Some people opt for nurseries that have a lot of color like like rainbow dots or whatever.

Honestly I think whatever you do would be fine as long as it's something you like. Don't pick a color you hate or you'll probably end up unhappy with the room.

And if you have a color you really love don't worry too much about if everything is matchy matchy or how it goes with the rest of the house or whatever. Plus in the end baby doesn't care what color the nursery is. It's really more for you.

By the time baby is old enough to care you can always change things up and repaint.

Mya

Is the worst lullaby ever. If the bird doesn't sing I'll buy you a diamond ring? Yeah right. For one, I'm pretty sure that's a serious choking hazard and for two, ain't nobody got money for that.

Just take a look for yourself.

Hush, little baby, don't say a word, Mama's gonna buy you a mockingbird.

And if that mockingbird don't sing, Mama's gonna buy you a diamond ring.

And if that diamond ring turns brass, Mama's gonna buy you a looking glass.

And if that looking glass is broke, Mama's gonna buy you a billy goat,

And if that billy goat won't pull, Mama's gonna buy you a cart and a bull.

And if that cart and bull turn over, Mama's gonna buy you a dog named Rover.

And if that dog named Rover won't bark, Mama's gonna buy you a horse and a cart.

And if that horse and cart fall down, You'll still be the sweetest little baby in town.

So hush little baby, don't you cry. Daddy loves you and so do I.

When you hear the lullaby you might not be noticing it but it comes down to one very simple request. Please be quiet. This is such a common phrase that you probably don't think anything about it. But the truth is that is one of the classic ways to try and calm a baby down. If you read over each line you will see that it is all about going to sleep. And yet you see it everywhere, used for everything. It is as if hush little baby don't say a word, mama's gonna buy you an anything that rhymes! Is just a rhym that says everything it needs to say. And that means it says nothing at all.

So if you are looking for ways to make up verses to the lullaby just remember there is an even better one...

Wheels on the Bus is the best for made up lyrics. "The babies on the bus go to sleep now/to sleep now/to sleep now/ the babies on the bus go to sleep now/ oh my god please". I make up random songs all the time. The wheels on the bus has become "The Animals at the zoo" when I run out of animals I start doing mythical creatures.

Has anyone else noticed that most nursery rhymes are morbid? Like, Rock-a-Bye Baby.. My word. My child will turn out just as well hearing Biggie Smalls instead. Please fogive the rambling. I am so tired.

Mya

We did a pros and cons lists, discussed it multiple times, but couldn't figure out what to do. I guess we were waiting until the anatomy scan to decide if we wanted to find out. I tried to make sure that any feelings I had were motivated by what we wanted, not what I thought I should do based on other people in our lives.

We decided to keep the sex to ourselves so it didn't have to weigh the benefits or worry about a gender reveal.

On one hand, I think it's easier to slip up and tell people if you know ahead of time, on the other, if we are having trouble bonding still at that point it could be worth it to find out. We also like old-fashioned things a lot, and I don't want to let unconscious gender prejudices start impacting my views before my kid is even born.

But knowing would make it easier to sew a few gendered items of clothing, and I'm sure I'll want to make one or two outfits like that, despite usually preferring gender neutral clothes for babies.

I know some people feel it's better to burst that bubble earlier rather than at the birth. Most people have a preference, however slight.

Mya

Make it easy for them. I keep a box, basket, or bin in every room he routinely plays in.

They fit into the decor so it doesn't scream "TOYS" but when the living room needs cleaning, for example, he can just toss stuff in there. Right now he's particular about what toys go where so it's less necessary now but I still like having them for quick clean up.

I also took a que from his daycare.

Everything is labeled in the playroom so I just pull out one bin at a time for clean up. I'm not terribly strict about having only one bin out at a time for play because it's good for the imagination to mix things up but clean up is easy.

Lately it's been much better because I've found a few things that work. They love being timed and seeing if they can "beat the clock" by finishing cleaning before the timer goes off. They also love racing against each other.

You can use rewards sometimes like if you can clean up in 5 minutes, you get to watch a TV show. I hope some of these ideas help!

And finally, lead by example.

If your room is a mess with bed unmade, so will their's. If they don't see you keeping your stuff picked up in public areas, they won't understand why they have to clean up. I've known quite a few families who ride their kids' ass about cleaning up toys but books and magazines and gadgets and old junk mail clutter every surface.

Not saying this is you, but it's a common enough occurrence I felt it's worth mentioning.

Mya

If you've got a motor, I would use it to idle into the wind, and either tie your rudder down or move it down into the feet well to keep it from moving too much.

Remember though, it's only a matter of time (depending on wind conditions) before the boat will start to move away from the wind. So you've got to be fast.

In order to do that, while back at the dock before leaving, I would have all of the slides in the track and ready to go, with the rope cleated off ready to be pulled. Then I would just use one piece of rope to reef knot the main down to the boom, to keep the sail from flapping around. Leave a loop in the knot though, because this allows you to remove the knot in one motion in just a split second.

You pull the string and poof, it's off.

So then you just idle into the wind, run up to the mast, pull your rope loose, uncleat the halyard, and start pulling.

Once the main is raised and winched, you scamper back down to your cockpit to correct whatever-the-hell-direction your boat is now trying to go. Run a halyard back to you if you can.

You might need to pick up another block to act as a turning point. That way you can hoist most, if not all of the way from the cockpit then, if you need to, you can quickly go forward when you're head to wind and secure it.

Another way, which would be a bigger pain in the ass would be to anchor, hoist, then raise anchor and sail off.

The third way takes some skill and a small boat like the Catalina 22.

It would be using your body weight to keep your boat head to wind while hoisting. As a dinghy sailor first, this makes sense to me but learning to control your boat with your body weight can be challenging, especially if the boat is moving backwards.

Then if your jib is a roller furling, you just get it going from the cockpit, and now you are ready to go.

So to recap: Motor out and pick up a mooring, or anchor somewhere shallow on the windward side of the river/harbor. Then you can hoist the sails with no rush, and slip the mooring or pull up a couple of yards of chain and sail away.